If there’s one thing that can hold you back from the best opportunities in life, like a chain, it’s self-doubt. From finding a partner in life to landing your dream job, poor self-esteem can be an unforgiving opponent that can significantly impact the quality of your life.
To make matters worse, it is not a mental struggle that most people are willing to seek professional help for. Most people think that they shouldn’t go to a therapist just because they’re shy. Other people have bigger problems.
But your poor self-confidence does require attention. When left unchecked, it can lead to other mental health issues like anxiety and depression. Fortunately, there are numerous self help books for anxiety and confidence that you can check out, and today, we will review some of the best in the market.
1. Elite Mind: A Real-World Guide to Overcoming Anxiety, Conquering Depression, and Unleashing Your Inner Confidence by Justin Stenstrom
Some people think that confidence will come from one’s achievements in life, good looks, or wealth. However, confidence is not that shallow.
One can be a stunning, successful millionaire and still be plagued with crippling self-doubt. There are also a lot of “confident” people out there who are simply masking their poor self-esteem behind their swagger and arrogance.
According to Justin Stenstrom, real confidence comes from mental mastery. It is not easy to achieve, though. Hence, what he offers are solid strategies that you can practice dedicatedly until you don’t need to practice them anymore consciously.
Stenstrom is the founder of the Elite group that includes Elite Man Magazine and Elite Life Nutrition. He is also a life coach who hosts the Elite Man Podcast where he has already interviewed guests like Robert Greene and Wim Hof.
Elite Mind is not your conventional book. It is written with wit and brutal honesty. He even gives a disclaimer at the beginning of the book about his intended use of language.
We understand why some can get turned off by this, but we also acknowledge that some people actually need this no-nonsense approach.
Craving for a different perspective from the traditional tones that self-help books take? Then this book might just be for you.
- Honest and direct
- Based on the author’s real-life experiences
- Practical mental mastery methods provided
- Swearing and humor might be offensive to some readers
2. The Self-Confidence Workbook: A Guide to Overcoming Self-Doubt and Improving Self-Esteem by Barbara Markway Ph.D. and Celia Ampel
The previous book had a lot of aggressive and masculine energy, and while it can be effective for some, it also won’t apply to everyone. Hence, why don’t we take a different approach?
The Self-Confidence Workbook: A Guide to Overcoming Self-Doubt and Improving Self-Esteem, written by Barbara Markway and Celia Ampel, leaves most of the healing journey to its reader.
Markway is a psychologist who has already authored five books. Her first published book, Dying of Embarrassment, was even hailed as one of the most scientifically valid self-help books on social anxiety.
Meanwhile, The Self-Confidence Workbook is Ampel’s first published piece. She is a writer who has already worked with various publications, including Miami Herald and Daily Business Review.
This book is based on a five-step program that Markway has developed using an evidence-based approach to self-compassion and acceptance. However, the main charm of this piece is the wealth of worksheets and exercises that it offers. They are insightful and well thought out.
Our only complaint is its length. It only has 178 pages, and since the majority of them are blank exercises, that means the actual content isn’t really much. It can make the mid-range price seem a bit expensive.
- Relatable and encouraging
- Evidence-based approach
- Comes with thought-provoking exercises
2. You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life by Jen Sincero
This book became trending when it was published, so you have probably heard of it already. It is actually a part of the three-volume series, You Are a Badass. The other two books are You Are a Badass Every Day: How to Keep Your Motivation and You Are a Badass at Making Money: Master the Mindset of Wealth.
This series of books made Jen Sincero a New York Times bestseller. In fact, this particular book spent more than five years on the New York Times bestseller list. It has sold over three million copies and was translated into almost 40 different languages.
It’s not surprising that it became a global hit. It is written in a witty, funny, and easy-to-understand language. The book is also divided into 27 bite-sized chapters that we have found very effortless to read, regardless of one’s current mental state.
We really appreciate this friendly approach. A lot of self-help experts tend to forget that their content is nothing if it takes a lot of effort for their troubled audience to read.
That said, if you’re looking for something serious, scientific, and dense with information, then this might not be the book for you. There’s also a bit of swearing in the book.
- Based on real-life experiences
- Easy and fun to read
- Quick and bite-sized chapters
- Lacking scientific basis
- Swearing and humor might be offensive to some readers
3. Get Out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating Behavior by Mark Goulston MD and Philip Goldberg
We understand why the previous book can either be a complete hit or a total miss. It might not seem very credible at times. If you feel the same way, then you’d probably like our next featured book.
Dr. Mark Goulston writes it with laudable credentials. Not only was he a former FBI, but he also taught psychiatry at UCLA for over 25 years. He combined this expertise with Philip Goldberg’s five-decade experience in writing. They truly make a powerful team.
The partnership led to Get Out of Your Own Way. It has a sound strategy in identifying self-defeating behaviors and how to overcome them. It also includes practical and straightforward steps on how to deal with other problematic mental processes, including obsession, compulsion, and procrastination.
Scanning through its table of contents will reveal how expansive its coverage is, with 40 chapters, each dealing with a particular behavior or mental health issue.
Unfortunately, they obviously had to limit the length of each chapter to around three to five pages each to accommodate everything yet not churn out a thick 1000-paged tome.
Regardless, we recognize why it is currently the top-selling book on self-esteem, OCD, and psychotherapy.
- Backed by decades of psychiatric clinical practice
- Wide number of subjects covered
- Chapters are quite limited
4. Unstoppable Self Confidence: How to Create the Indestructible, Natural Confidence of the 1% Who Achieve Their Goals, Create Success on Demand and Live Life on Their Terms by Andrew Leedham
Let’s finish the lineup strong with Unstoppable Self-Confidence. Let’s be honest; there are many times when we don’t really care much about the author’s achievements or his life experiences. They can sometimes be quite impressive, like Goulston, Stenstrom, or Sincero. Still, in the end, they wouldn’t even matter to us if we haven’t read their profiles in the first place.
Instead, here’s what a lot of people are really interested in: the life of the 1%; the people who are really at the top of their game in their own respective fields.
Andrew Leedham realized this, and he took advantage. He used his experience as a writer in the field of personal development to research and share the secrets of these people.
We love how intriguing this book is. It shares the principles behind self-esteem and the steps to achieve them like the other books in this lineup. It also presents it as if you’re looking through the eyes of the 1%.
For us, this is beyond just being a self-help book. We recommend it to anyone who is simply curious about how the elite thinks and how to be them. We also appreciate that it is 438 pages long.
The only problem with this book? It sadly needs more editing. It has a lot of typographical errors that could have easily been avoided.
- Intriguing and captivating
- Long and substantial
- Needed more editing
Self help books for anxiety and confidence can really vary on their methods and approach. In the end, it will all boil down to your personal needs and preferences to determine which book will best suit you.
As for us, we love all of the books in the lineup. Otherwise, we never would have included them in our review in the first place. Our favorite has got to be Get Out of Your Own Way: Overcoming Self-Defeating Behavior by Mark Goulston MD and Philip Goldberg, though.
It is credible, well-written, and covers a wide range of topics beyond just anxiety and confidence. Sure, the chapters may not be that long, but they can serve as great starting points to determine the most relevant issues. You can easily supplement them with other more subject-focused books later on. Good luck!